Live your best life

I could say to myself of the love (I had): Let it not be immortal, since it is flame But let it be infinite while it lasts. -Vinicius de Moraes Change is the only constant. I could change forever with you. The seasons of my life move with the seasons of you. And you move in time with my mood.

The place between Your head and heart, Where the pulsing of life can be felt With lips pressed to skin That is the origin Of my feeling - Simply because you exist. How many lifetimes of kisses Can fit into one night You are the place I come home to This shoulder is my respite This back is never turned Here I don’t need to hide The more I am open, the more you come in The more that I laugh, the more you are brave Here we are awkward, Here we are kind.

Just because something isn't right for you doesn't make it completely wrong. Just because someone doesn't bring out the best in you doesn't automatically mean they bring out the worst in you. No one struggles to give up the bad for the good. What people are unwilling to do is give up the certainty and safety of 'good enough' and 'ok' for the thrilling yet terrifying possibility of 'amazing'.

Ask me anything - I'll do what I can. Take what you need - but not at my expense, please. Receive graciously all that I offer you. Give without regard for what you get in return. Share all that you have generously and carefully. Refuse anything that compromises your integrity. Play like a child, imagine, create, laugh and have fun as if your life depended on it.

The paradox of our modern world is we tell people to make choices based on what they love, what lights them up and makes them happy... and then we tell them to sacrifice, endure and adapt when those things are gone. So you basically only get one shot at choosing your bliss and then we'll shame you into sticking it out regardless of whether it continues to satisfy your needs. Huh? How does it make sense to promote human development and growth and at the same time tell people to stay stuck and try harder? If humans evolve, then needs and personalities do too. It is ok to seek happiness at every stage. If we're the generation that fights against the stiff upper lip and lying back and thinking of England, then we need to encourage people to make edits to their life as needed, without judgement.

People you can trust: Show up on time Don't flake last minute Back up their words with action Are responsible Are consistent These are habits. These are little things. When you choose to engage in a relationship with someone you can't trust, you've probably got betrayal blindness. It's not about them - it's about you choosing to trust someone untrustworthy.

Love and passion are important  AND Opposites attract but similarities bond. You’ve got to look at the person You need to evaluate the connection Ask these questions: 1.         Can they do the job? 2.        Will they do the job well long-term?  Are your goals aligned? Is their nature aligned to the job? 3.        Is it the right team fit? Are your top 2 needs compatible?  Ex. Love and contribution do not go well with significance and certainty.

If it was not love It was desire If it was not desire It was need If it was not need It was love

To those people who are constantly thinking about how others can meet their needs... - ask yourself how much love you're giving - ask yourself how many needs you're meeting - ask yourself if you can regulate your own emotions - ask yourself if you set people up to win with you, or if no matter what they do, they always seem to lose - ask yourself if you're more committed to your sadness, anger and disappointment than to changing your behaviour - ask yourself if you radiate joy or simply drain others of theirs - ask yourself why everyone needs to change except your expectations - ask yourself if you're as grateful and appreciative of the gifts in your life as you think you are - ask yourself if the environment you create through your thoughts, words and actions is good for you and those around you. Be honest with yourself. Look a little harder at all the ways you're closed off, all the ways you hurt others, all the blind spots you repeatedly miss. Do you h...

The best kind of love makes you better. It transforms you into the kind of person who can love so much that you will give what it hurts the most to give, and still keep loving. It makes you gentler, and more honest; it brings peace and vitality. It makes you generous and vulnerable and hopeful. It is unconditional friendship and electric passion wrapped in kindness. When someone lights you up like that and inspires you to be a light for others, that is something to be thankful for every moment of forever. Be grateful for the opportunity to love someone the way they always wanted to be loved. And if you are ever in a situation where that feeling is mutual, you should do absolutely everything in your power not to let it go. I do not say this lightly. There is no better life than one spent with the person who makes the best of you come alive. That sort of love is once-in-a-dozen lifetimes, soul-connection rare. That kind of love is real and it does exist; and whether it lasts 5 months o...

Never have I heard as much apologizing as I do in a crowded, public women's washroom. We apologize and preface everything we say with an air of undeserved worth and it needs to change. The Kavanaugh hearing made us all angry. And yet, how many of us are willing and able to stand up and fight for ourselves and all women? We need to start socializing girls to understand that their needs are just as, if not more important than those of others. And to fight for those needs to be met. Respectfully, with dignity and strength and firmness. We need to help girls practice asking for what they want fearlessly in order to raise women who can develop identities separate from peacemakers, relationship seekers and nice, well-behaved ladies. We need women to rediscover their inherent value and act like it! I think it starts with speaking up. I've been reading "A woman's guide to successful negotiating" and they suggest it all comes down to confidence, preparation, being convin...

Things women don't need to apologize for: Asking for what they want and need Stating an opinion Asking for clarification Disagreeing with others Saying no Their success You would think all of these would be a given. But sadly, we don't all wake up thinking "I'm great, I bet everyone wants to hear what I have to say today". KPMG did a study on women's leadership and they sadly found most women feel confident asking for help and more training than for opportunities.   This is partly due to the way in which we were socialized. Unfortunately, we were taught that suppressing our individuality, our ideas and our abilities would make us fit in, be liked and be perceived as "nice". It's hard to now flip the script and say, well, being nice is not going to get you ahead. And I'm not talking about suddenly encouraging everyone to be a bitch. I'm talking about cultivating a set of characteristics that men were raised to em...

My professional goal for 2018 is to improve my ability to influence. This is a tricky attribute for me, because in the past, I've misused it, misunderstood it, and then, as a result, tried to avoid it altogether. So part of the challenge of using my influence, for me, is accepting that influence can be a positive trait. Influence is not being afraid to ask. Influence is not saying "no" for someone else before you've even asked.  Influence is curiosity. Influence is winning friends, not using people. Influence is connection. Influence is listening more than talking. Influence is vulnerability.  Influence is challenging others. Influence is story telling. Influence is asking for help when you need it. Influence is making other people feel good. Influence is using your abilities and knowledge to help others. Influence is not about ego. Influence is not a bad word. Influence is making an impact on the world.

I am reading Meditations, by Marcus Aurelius and I just had to share this paraphrased bit because it's basically a 5 step guide of how not to do life. The soul of man does violence to itself when: 1. it becomes a tumor on the universe (separating itself from the oneness of nature and becoming a burden) 2. it turns away from anyone or moves towards another with the intention of injury (as in anger) 3. it is overpowered by pleasure or pain 4. it plays a part, doing or saying anything insincerely and untruly 5. it is aimless, thoughtless, careless and without reason or purpose.

Authenticity is one of the biggest buzz words around and I think at this point, no one is really sure anymore what it means, only that we’re all supposed to be it. Does it mean being unapologetically you, even if you are an asshat? No, that would mean lacking empathy and consideration for others. Does it mean putting all of you out there for everyone at all times? No, that would mean you’re not protecting yourself in the way you deserve to be cared for. Does it mean perfection? Never doing anything wrong, never hurting anyone, and never hurting yourself? No, that doesn’t exist and striving for this is the exact opposite of authenticity. What authenticity really is, is telling the truth, at the right moment, in the right way, to yourself and to others. It stands to reason then, that one does not need to be perfect, one needs to be honest and kind. You see, if your main objective is to be perfect and well-liked, you will have to lie. You will try to so...

Sometimes “good” doesn’t feel “right”, not because it isn’t, but because we’ve learned to search for struggle and instability and pain and try to solve it so we can heal, so we can feel like we're good enough to overcome it.  What no one talks about is we’re not usually ready for “good” until we’ve worked out those issues.  The thing we all need to discover in this life is: everything we need is already within us.  We are complete and capable of cultivating love and joy wherever we are. We don’t need someone unavailable or inconsistent or difficult to 'choose us' to prove that we’re worth it.  Partnership is about finding someone who mirrors the best of you: someone who has character and knows how to cultivate love and joy.  It’s not about fixing something broken w ithin you, or filling a void, or making you feel better about your insecurities. It’s about two people coming together and choosing to give and receive, to love and to grow.  A g...

This is so important and it's so complicated. On the one hand, you don't want to be a closed-hearted person. You want to be the type of person who is sowing seeds and planting flowers, because that is a beautiful contribution that will change the world for the better. On the other hand, how many times can you watch wilting, dying flowers before getting discouraged and never wanting to plant them again? So really, the trick is learning where to plant the flowers. Where is the soil fertile? Where will the flowers get enough sunshine? Where will they have someone to carefully tend to them? And possibly the biggest challenge of all is finding a tribe of people who will go out there and plant flowers with you. These will be those who will comfort you, encourage you, and help you - who will work side by side with you and tend to your flowers as you tend to theirs.

On compassion: With awareness, comes understanding With understanding, comes compassion With compassion, you stop looking for perfection (in yourself and others) And instead, you seek connection. Play and fun are only possible in an environment with established safety, trust and respect. Fondness and admiration coupled with mutual respect make more of a difference than all the communication skills and psychoanalysis in the world. In life, you don't get what you give. You get what you are. Emotional availability can only happen when there is reliable interdependence, and both partners committ to the following principles: Believe you are loveable and worthy of affection. Make your partner's needs and feelings equal to yours. Give up your secret life / backup plan. Take action to make your partner a priority in your life. Learn to control your emotional impulses to create distance / to pursue closeness in unhealthy ways. Share your feelings, dreams and fears. T...

New beginnings are not as hard when you've been through a few of them.  As my wise 2nd grader said this morning: "I was new last year. This year I'm old."  Watching my own child grow up, as well as going through various challenges myself, I now have so much confidence in the individual ability to experience setback, feel hurt, fall down and be pushed to reflect, be inspired to learn, evolve and grow. Ultimately, we can all get stronger and better, so whoever you are reading this, whatever you are going through, please know this: The best is yet to come. You will only get better.  All that's required of you is a good attitude and an open heart. Don't lose faith. Don't close your heart. You will get everything you have ever dreamed of and more.

The 7 spiritual laws of abundance 1. The source of abundance is infinite 2. Whatever you want to receive start by giving 3. Money is the exchange of values 4. Money is the result of spontaneous creativity 5.  Intention and attention is all you need 6. Key to abundance is letting go 7. Purpose of life is progressive expansion for everyone The 7 spiritual laws of love Attraction = Authentic Infatuation = Enchantment of ordinary world Communion = Contact of souls, basis of trust Intimacy = creative energy, uniting into one Surrender + Non-Attachment = relinquish ego, there is no separation, the miracle outside the self Passion = elevated reality in life and in love Ecstasy = original state of creation, spirit that flows through love The 10 keys to happiness 1. Listen to your body's wisdom which expresses comfort and discomfort and follow its lead 2. Live in the present. Keep attention on the here and now. 3. Take time to be silent, to meditate. Pay attention t...

I am a big fan of Super Soul conversations. This morning I listened to Oprah's conversation with Gloria and there were so many little gems that resonated with me that I need to capture them here for my future self (or you, my audience, if you're out there reading this). "You don't ask small questions." I can't begin to explain how deeply I relate to this. I am not interested in small talk, I am not good at it, and it leaves me feeling empty. I will ask you something big that we could potentially connect over, or you will slowly disappear from my life, because if we can't do that, you bring no added value. "I'm a hopeaholic... with skepticism, because that helps inform where to spend your energies." If this isn't the biggest truth discovery of my 30s, I don't know what is. I see the world as a friendly place. I see possibilities and I have hope for the future. But I am not an idiot, and I am not blind to the defects. I just choos...

I've spent a lot of time thinking about this and I finally heard something that resonates with me and provides a perfect definition and differentiation. Compromise : when you willingly do or do not do something out of love, and it does not cause you to feel bad about yourself. Self-betrayal : is when your action or inaction essentially says to yourself that you're not worth  protecting, and worse, that you're no better than those who hurt you. Self-betrayal leaves you feeling drained, it costs you your power, and causes you to lose the integrity of who you are, and it just doesn't feel right on the inside. I leave you with some brilliant quotes from brilliant minds who have pondered self-betrayal as well:

Ok... I have some beef with our current cultural obsession to "commit to joint growth". Here's why: -we don't all bloom at the same time -we should not be expecting people to keep up in order to keep the relationship. Just commit to being kind, compassionate and loving and you may find joint growth is unnecessary. When people feel that they can grow, and they feel valued and valuable, and they feel safe -- they'll stay with you forever. You choose to love a soul, not a facade, not a set of benefits, not an idealized image of a perfect future. That means you not only accept them as they are, you celebrate what they are and treasure them for it. You don't pressure them to grow with you. Sometimes I think this push for joint growth is just one person outgrowing something and desperately needing the other person to change so they don't feel like the relationship has failed. It's ok to want something different. It's ok to grow apart. It's ok to...

The days continue to pass by. One by one, ordinary and out-of-the ordinary. I do not feel them, to tell the truth. I just notice time moving by. I look up and there is another month gone. I remember reading. I feel time pass while I meditate. I have a sense of the world around me as I sit on a picnic table in the parkette outside my office, eating lunch. Sometimes time freezes or even moves backwards, especially when I listen to music. I feel disconnected. If you were to look at my calendar you would see how busy I am. There is always something to do. Activities, fun, friends. But it does not touch me. Not anymore. I am untouchable now. When I play with Rielle the time goes unnoticed. We laugh and talk and play and make meaning out of nothing. When she cries and I hold her, I can almost feel time again. But I don't do that anymore. I make small talk now. I back away when people try to get closer. I don't mean to, it's just an automatic reaction. And yet, there is peace....

What looks like it's standing in the way of your destiny, is actually preparing you for your destiny. I've heard it said that people often encounter their destiny on the road they took to avoid it. I believe that. Your destiny has been inside you all along. You won't escape it and it won't escape you. But there are certainly choices you can make to get out of your own way. Often it's things like overcoming fears, discovering what makes your soul sing, and living authentically.

Don't worry, this will not be an extensive post. In fact, it can be summed up in just a few words (which is, incidentally, how my husband likes to have all of our "touchy-feely" conversations): Under-promise. Over-deliver.  Now, I may not like him very much for this lesson. In fact, it may be hurtful sometimes. It  may be disappointing not to hear the words I want to hear. It may limit my possibilities. It may make things harder. But, I can honestly say that it is one of the few things I can look back and be grateful for from him. Not speaking empty words. Not making promises one doesn't intend to keep. Not saying one thing and doing another. At least, I have known what to expect. It has not always been pretty (and that's the understatement of the century) but I always know when I am promised something, it happens. Always. So while it hurts not to hear all the things my heart longs for, I am also never fooled into a false sense of security. And that is s...

If someone were to tell you in advance, you'll get everything you ever wanted and more out of life, but first, you will face struggles and pain, would you say, "No, thanks. I'd rather not have it"? Have faith that you are right where you are supposed to be. Things unfold at the right place and time, always. What you are hoping for right now will be replaced with something better in the future. And the best is yet to come.

The checklist childhood, the checklist career, the checklist marriage, the checklist life... Ordinarily, I'm all about checklists - but they only help you get things done, they don't infuse any joy or magic into life. And sometimes, they're more about control and achievement than anything you might really want. Let go of the checklist mentality and you will see if you should still be holding on to anything you don't actually want. Sometimes the most beautiful moments and experiences are a beautiful, unplanned surprise. When you become fully open to anything, you might just be devastatingly moved by something. You may find yourself fully immersed in a moment... You may let go of fear and embrace unexpected change... You may stop looking for certainty, and instead.. You might just start living.

Summer is always my time to re-connect with my daughter. The pace is slower, the weather is conducive to good moods and renewed energy. We have more time to spend together, and there are more opportunities for engaging in meaningful conversations and new experiences. Naturally, as we navigate the ever changing landscape of needs and wants, personality and values, I ask myself what my guiding parenting principles are. What am I hoping to achieve? This helps me narrow my focus on important goals, but also, reminds me to delight in and savour certain moments. Certainly a big part of parenting is teaching, but an even bigger part is sitting back and reveling in the wonder that is another human being growing up and making their way through daily life. I try to be a conscious parent. I try to think of why I react a certain way, or why I feel the need to have my child behave a certain way. I try to empathize with all the emotions and behaviours my daughter engages in, too. I am reflectiv...

I do not know the little things I am there no longer I have not heard the latest news Or if it made you stronger  But I still recall your deepest dreams And the shape of your soul For that I do not need to be there Or hear your voice at all I am not here but my heart is I do not speak but I still think I am not with you but all hope is I do not touch but feel the link

My main concern right now is figuring out who is viewing my profile in private mode. Just kidding. I'm currently wondering whether or not, in the process of trying to close the gap between who we are and who we want to be, we are actually abandoning and rejecting our true selves. Why don't we choose lives that help us thrive instead of struggling to survive outside of our element? Humans are weird. The idea that we can make anything work for us as long as we want it enough is so flawed. Certain things are meant for you, and you'll recognize them by how easily they flow. Others will be crosses to bear until the bitter end. Sticking it out searching for that light at the end of the tunnel is probably the most absurd notion of any being who knows it has a finite amount of time to pursue life, love and happiness. You thought it would be a light one because it's a long weekend, didn't you? Philosophy minor and rebel millennial - can't social media properly.

I always think I'm fine, until I see you again, or speak to you: until you're close. Sometimes, I can feel you. A memory, a sound, a taste and I'm transported back to you. And then, my body responds to you on a cellular level. I come back to life, to feeling, to euphoria and pain. The air between us is heavy with the burden of all the words left unspoken. We pretend, you and I, and we are far too good at it. We lie to the others but we've even succeeded in convincing ourselves we're ok. Of course, I think of you... All the time, even when I don't reach out. To forget you would be to forget the best of me, all I ever wanted to be. See, it's like this. I was crouched over, sitting in the darkness, in a corner of the abandoned home that imprisoned me. I was just rocking back and forth, holding myself tight, holding myself together, for fear if I let go, every piece would fall apart and I would come undone. You must have heard my cries and mistaken them fo...

Successful attachment involves a relationship dynamic where the needs and wants of security AND exploration are consistently met, where there is joy, resonance and co-regulation. Perfection is unnecessary, what matters, rather, is that ruptures in connection are quickly reflected upon and repaired. Your own attachment from childhood will undoubtedly affect your ability to parent, but awareness will allow you to steer your own experience in a different direction, if you choose. The reality is, as with any relationship - the objective of parenthood is to create a meaningful and consistent connection between parent and child. That means kindness when needed. Firmness when needed. Help when needed. Independence when needed. Laughter when needed. Empathy and the ability to sit in uncertainty or emotional pain without trying to fix it, ignore it, distract from it or force it out. Love is being with another - not impressing yourself upon another, or allowing another to overwhelm you. As t...

I've noticed a new trend in professional and marriage advice: choosing growth over happiness. While I wholeheartedly believe in and encourage continuous improvement, I've got a PSA to make on this topic. You don't need to sacrifice happiness for growth - you can and should choose both. In fact, it's essential! Here's why: - There is no trophy to win at the end of your life for deferring happiness in favour of growth - whether it's financial or personal. Your only reward comes in the present moment - so if you can't choose happiness now, you probably won't be happy later . Which leads to my next point.  - If you’re waiting for happiness to come as a consequence of growth, you’ll be forever waiting , because at which point will you have done "enough" growing? -Putting off happiness, even for something as noble as growth, is actually an indicator that 1. you're living out of fear and insecurity that you're not good enough and 2...

I won't promise perfection. I promise that after a fight, or a hurt, or a misunderstanding, I will reflect on it, from your perspective as well as mine. I will try to be humble, knowing I won't ever have all the answers. I will remember we are both human and deserving of compassion, kindness and understanding - and that this matters more than anything else we are in conflict over at the moment. I promise to try first, and try again. I will make mistakes. I know I will drive you crazy, and screw up and I hope when you bring it up - you do so kindly, compassionately and with understanding - that I will have cultivated enough self-love, resilience and strength, that I don't get defensive and shut down, or counterattack. I will try to own up to my messes and not blame you for my failures. When we fight, I will spend more energy on listening to you and trying to understand you than I do on getting my own point across. I will try to bring 10 times more joy, laughter and po...

When you are a light, you deserve to shine brighter next to another light, not someone who looks to you to illuminate them. That's why I think being needed is less of a compliment than being desired and loved.  I watched an episode of "13 reasons why" yesterday, and this line struck me: " I can let you go, and still love you."  The people who can love like this have figured out love. Love is unconditional - but that also means you're not sacrificing the self for the relationship.  The best relationships bring out your shine - they make your light even brighter, and together you illuminate the world around you. So often we confuse love with need. We think we need another person to make us happy. We think if we can meet someone's needs, that is love. But love is so far beyond need. If you're stuck on the level of need, you're not experiencing the fullness of love. Love is rich and resplendent - until you need nothing and simply desire and ...

When I'm in your presence It calls to mind remnants, fragments of memories Of past poets sitting in garrets. The moon shines so clearly, The light floods our eyes and any Reservations are carried away by fireflies. Your touch is at once tantalizing While my fears are agonizing Your response is mesmerizing. If you were mine I'd believe in the illusion There's be no hesitation As I made resolutions All the lyricists, versifiers, creators before us Couldn't express all the ways I adore you. Is there such a thing as possessed and un-damned? Can you have peaceful mutiny? Or a passion held steadfastly? They say we're crazy, For wanting these lies How did we materialize them? What a perfect surprise.

The only thing that separated me from those who didn't make it Is that I never lost hope. No matter how impossible it may have seemed, I would not believe The dream that was placed in my heart Would not come to fruition. I did not accept that the universe was a cruel place Where destiny merely blossoms for a few months Just to fade into nothingness. You will find In the end That my love Kept hope alive My love gave me life I always knew the best was yet to come And this gave me strength To carry on To find happiness in small moments Where I did not have the great. I kept my focus on me On becoming the person I needed to be To be worthy of receiving my dream To be ready to receive it all And not lose it through folly and carelessness. I was afraid, And still I carried on. I was weak, So I trained harder. I was humbled, And I rose up better than before. I was hurt, but I healed beautifully. I was determined. There was a fire that burned within ...

Aside from this blog, I regularly post on LinkedIn. As most professionals on there, I am the classic example of an achiever. But when it comes to fulfillment? Most days it feels like I fail. I know that I am committed to growth in this area - to cultivating and refining the art of fulfillment. This year I started a happiness project, where I mindfully chose, with a friend (because connection is part of fulfillment) intentional ways to make myself happier. Positive thinking, gratitude, creativity, connection were all part of the tasks we assigned to ourselves to cultivate more happiness. They say simply struggling with the big questions ensures you will live a meaningful existence. I think it has to do more with meeting your primary needs - which differ for everyone. NEEDS OF THE PERSONALITY: CERTAINTY - need for safety, security, comfort, order, predictability, control, and consistency VARIETY - need for surprise, challenge, excitement, difference, chaos, adventure, change a...

Your subconscious mind is like a huge memory bank, storing experiences and beliefs acquired mostly from before the age of 7.  It  is able to process extreme quantities of information from all of your senses and then translate them back to your brain. Your subconscious mind makes everything you say and do fit a pattern consistent with your self-concept, your “master program.” Your conscious mind  commands  and your subconscious mind  obeys - it takes everything literally. It is unable to distinguish imagination from reality or try to apply logic to your thoughts.  Your subconscious mind is habit based, causing you to feel emotionally and physically uncomfortable whenever you attempt to do anything new or different or to change any of your established patterns of behavior. Dreams are the creation of your subconscious mind. Your subconscious mind controls 95% of your life, it's always awake. It emerges to the surface when you are fully relaxed.  You...

Choose to be with yourself You are valuable Ask yourself for advice Instead of asking others Observe ordinary situations Understand what is around you Close your eyes in a dark room And appreciate the silence What do you see? Listen to your inner voice Be kind to yourself Cherish every interaction Nothing is boring You're just not paying enough attention Don't stagnate; change something Don't fill your quiet time with mindless entertainment Instead, seek out answers to your inner questions Create something meaningful Lose yourself in it Pursue your plans and dreams Immediately and every day. Do not wait. Do something alone, enjoy it! Start something that scares you. Get in over your head. Volunteer your time for a cause you believe in. Give and give again, and then give some more. Laugh every day.

What is love without suffering? What comes easily has so little love in it. What is love without fear? If you're not scared of being hurt, you're not doing it right. Lust is materialism Loving things, using people Love is self giving, A promise upheld daily I want the best for you No matter how much it hurts me I give all of myself to you Holding nothing back, surrendering. See into me, try intimacy Do not possess me Rather caress me Understand me Love is motivated by the needs of the other Nothing you ask is ever too much When you give and you give And forget just how much Love is not an emotion, But how I choose to live, forever with you.

If I asked you what you're thinking All I'd hear are lies You say not to overthink it, But I'm scared to be surprised. I wish you'd touch my feelings Before touching my body I wish you'd get to know me Before saying you love me Your hard heart won't forgive And all the tears I cry, Won't be enough to melt it. Too caught up in the past. Too worried about the future. Do you think of me? As much as you think of you? I could use some company Time flies while I wait for you.