Needy

To those people who are constantly thinking about how others can meet their needs...
- ask yourself how much love you're giving
- ask yourself how many needs you're meeting
- ask yourself if you can regulate your own emotions
- ask yourself if you set people up to win with you, or if no matter what they do, they always seem to lose
- ask yourself if you're more committed to your sadness, anger and disappointment than to changing your behaviour
- ask yourself if you radiate joy or simply drain others of theirs
- ask yourself why everyone needs to change except your expectations
- ask yourself if you're as grateful and appreciative of the gifts in your life as you think you are
- ask yourself if the environment you create through your thoughts, words and actions is good for you and those around you.

Be honest with yourself. Look a little harder at all the ways you're closed off, all the ways you hurt others, all the blind spots you repeatedly miss.

Do you have everything you need, and you're just destroying it with criticism and punishment? If you don't trust yourself to inspire love and give love, you will never be able to recognize and receive love.

See, an emotional connection inspires people to meet needs, but nothing damages connection more than someone who cares only about themselves, but manipulates the other into doing it "for the relationship".

Humans are pretty kind. When someone we love genuinely needs something, we will do anything in our power to help. But humans are also pretty smart. When someone wants us to fill their emptiness for them, or change ourselves to make them feel safer, or give up our needs for the sake of giving them a greater sense of control -- we may do it for a while, because we care, but eventually we will run out of love precisely because the other person is not meeting any of our needs. And that is when we get ready to leave.