"Perfectionism is just fear in haute couture shoes." - Elizabeth Gilbert, Author of "Eat, Pray, Love" There are two basic fears in relationships: Fear of abandonment – stemming from inconsistent or dismissive responses from those who were supposed to love you as a child Fear of engulfment – stemming from intrusive over-management and controlling criticism from your caregiver These fears will manifest in different ways. Are you aware of how your fears are shaping the way you show up in your relationships? Someone with a fear of abandonment will have an anxious attachment style, constantly seeking confirmation that they are loved, accepted, important. Consistent responses from a partner will help them feel more secure, but it will be a long, arduous journey. There is necessary personal work that needs to happen for this person: namely the development of an inherent self-worth, compassion and self-soothing and learning stop hustling so much for the ...
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