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Mastery is two-fold


Aside from this blog, I regularly post on LinkedIn. As most professionals on there, I am the classic example of an achiever. But when it comes to fulfillment? Most days it feels like I fail.

I know that I am committed to growth in this area - to cultivating and refining the art of fulfillment. This year I started a happiness project, where I mindfully chose, with a friend (because connection is part of fulfillment) intentional ways to make myself happier. Positive thinking, gratitude, creativity, connection were all part of the tasks we assigned to ourselves to cultivate more happiness.

They say simply struggling with the big questions ensures you will live a meaningful existence. I think it has to do more with meeting your primary needs - which differ for everyone.

NEEDS OF THE PERSONALITY:
CERTAINTY - need for safety, security, comfort, order, predictability, control, and consistency
VARIETY - need for surprise, challenge, excitement, difference, chaos, adventure, change and novelty.
SIGNIFICANCE - the need to have meaning, to matter, to feel special, needed, wanted, worthy, important, proud.
CONNECTION - the need for love, communication, union, approval, attachment, intimacy with other human beings

NEEDS OF THE SPIRIT:
GROWTH - the need for constant emotional, intellectual and spiritual development
CONTRIBUTION - the need to give beyond ourselves, to care for, protect and serve others

So how do you meet / serve your needs? This document was super helpful in helping me see what I could do to live more purposefully: http://www.lifecoachinginterventions.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/12/Significance-of-Your-Most-Important-Needs.pdf 

I hope you build a beautiful, meaningful and fulfilling life that feels as great on the inside as it looks on the outside.




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