The checklist childhood, the checklist career, the checklist marriage, the checklist life...
Ordinarily, I'm all about checklists - but they only help you get things done, they don't infuse any joy or magic into life. And sometimes, they're more about control and achievement than anything you might really want.
Let go of the checklist mentality and you will see if you should still be holding on to anything you don't actually want.
Sometimes the most beautiful moments and experiences are a beautiful, unplanned surprise. When you become fully open to anything, you might just be devastatingly moved by something.
You may find yourself fully immersed in a moment... You may let go of fear and embrace unexpected change... You may stop looking for certainty, and instead.. You might just start living.
Sometimes you can get stuck in a relationship: You're in a constant state of trigger (fight/ flight/ freeze) instead of feeling intimately connected You've become two old stories instead of two open hearts You're scared or angry most of the time instead of feeling free and authentic It's heavy and complicated instead of light and playful There is more effort placed on control and strategy than growth and gratitude You are there because of a commitment, because you feel you “should”, not because you want to be. What can you do? You basically have 3 options: 1. Stay . Continue the slow, painful process of losing yourself in order to keep the relationship. 2. Let it go . Sacrifice your relationship to save your soul. 3. Change . You both have to be willing and capable of growing together. The goal here is to see if you can get back to love without sacrificing your authentic selves in the process. To do this, you must remove the idea of promises, attachment...
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