I think we've all, unfortunately, been guilty of this at one point or another. We turn to others in our moment of need (which is beautiful and vulnerable and necessary) but we end up using people to make ourselves feel better.
Love that doesn't hurt starts with approaching relationships from the perspective of what we have to give instead of what we want to get. Treating everyone with kindness and respect means we recognize the inherent worth of a person regardless of what they do or give.
Sometimes you can get stuck in a relationship: You're in a constant state of trigger (fight/ flight/ freeze) instead of feeling intimately connected You've become two old stories instead of two open hearts You're scared or angry most of the time instead of feeling free and authentic It's heavy and complicated instead of light and playful There is more effort placed on control and strategy than growth and gratitude You are there because of a commitment, because you feel you “should”, not because you want to be. What can you do? You basically have 3 options: 1. Stay . Continue the slow, painful process of losing yourself in order to keep the relationship. 2. Let it go . Sacrifice your relationship to save your soul. 3. Change . You both have to be willing and capable of growing together. The goal here is to see if you can get back to love without sacrificing your authentic selves in the process. To do this, you must remove the idea of promises, attachment...
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