Brene Brown is a genius

Here are some of the best life lessons I learned from my girl, Brene:

1. When you're feeling upset with someone try starting with "The story I am telling myself is..." There is beauty in approaching situations with empathy and the need to understand instead of a conflict mindframe.

2. "Foreboding joy": when we are so scared of vulnerability and uncertainty, that we numb ourselves to the joy before us to eliminate the possible pain of losing it. Hey, guess what? It totally doesn't work. What is the alternative? Feeling gratitude and courage: allowing yourself to feel the joy to its fullest.

3. Pause and enjoy your life before it passes you by. This is a challenge if you use productivity or "hustling for approval" to escape something you don't want to address in your life, but do it anyway. You won't regret it. We are made for art and beauty and love, running around will never fulfill you.

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When you get stuck

Sometimes you can get stuck in a relationship: You're in a constant state of trigger (fight/ flight/ freeze) instead of feeling intimately connected You've become two old stories instead of two open hearts You're scared or angry most of the time instead of feeling free and authentic It's heavy and complicated instead of light and playful There is more effort placed on control and strategy than growth and gratitude You are there because of a commitment, because you feel you “should”, not because you want to be. What can you do? You basically have 3 options: 1. Stay . Continue the slow, painful process of losing yourself in order to keep the relationship. 2. Let it go . Sacrifice your relationship to save your soul. 3. Change . You both have to be willing and capable of growing together. The goal here is to see if you can get back to love without sacrificing your authentic selves in the process. To do this, you must remove the idea of promises, attachment...

Courage is not the absence of fear

"Everything you've ever wanted is on the other side of fear." -George Addair Wholeheartedly believe this. We have two choices in life: be led by fear, or lead with love and courage, trusting that things will unfold and work out just as they should. Maybe not how you planned, but always for the best. Fears will never disappear. But when you make peace with your fears, possibilities will appear. The next time you feel fear, just take the superhero stance! (And do some yoga to quiet the mind.)

Dream

Would you mind dreaming with me a little while longer Because I'm not finished with you yet You tell me not to remember But I don't want to forget It may not be perfect, nor am I, neither are you But you bring me something I can hold on to It helps me surrender It helps me advance And most of all, you already know, It makes my soul dance.

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