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Brene Brown is a genius


Here are some of the best life lessons I learned from my girl, Brene:

1. When you're feeling upset with someone try starting with "The story I am telling myself is..." There is beauty in approaching situations with empathy and the need to understand instead of a conflict mindframe.


2. "Foreboding joy": when we are so scared of vulnerability and uncertainty, that we numb ourselves to the joy before us to eliminate the possible pain of losing it. Hey, guess what? It totally doesn't work. What is the alternative? Feeling gratitude and courage: allowing yourself to feel the joy to its fullest.



3. Pause and enjoy your life before it passes you by. This is a challenge if you use productivity or "hustling for approval" to escape something you don't want to address in your life, but do it anyway. You won't regret it. We are made for art and beauty and love, running around will never fulfill you.



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