What changes when you change?

Change often begins with a teardown of the way it used to be and the person you used to be. It can be challenging and long and even painful.

Preparing a new way takes time. It will be a while until the new path is ready and until you are ready to head out on the new path.

You will need to nurture the little desires along the way to get to the deep desires that will shape your path forward.

And I do not refer to change for the sake of change here - that is almost always a self-image issue. Either you're unhappy with yourself and trying to change to 'be worthy'. Or you're trying to change due to external pressures, because others are unhappy with you and you want them to perceive you as 'worthy'.

First off, you're worthy, as you are, simply because you exist. You need prove, achieve nor demonstrate anything to yourself or anyone else.

Secondly, the only sort of change you need to accept is the change that occurs as a natural result of life experiences. Those changes are valid, and real, and they DO alter us. We cannot be the people we were yesterday, if today, the world around us has changed.

So I urge you to be patient with the process of change and to be kind to yourself, because you are preparing yourself for the path that is being prepared for you.

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