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Musings on the Bachelorette

You're easy to control when you don't know what you want and you're not sure what you deserve. Someone will come along and use you as a means to their end. You'll help them feel better about their own insecurities. This will trap you in a cycle of trying to build an identity through meeting their needs and making them happy. You'll become, at best, 'medicine' for that person or at worst, a DIY project. 

If you're wondering if this is you, ask yourself:
Will this person still care about me and treat me lovingly if I don't do what they want? 
Will they respect my desire to change this relationship dynamic? 
How much of my interactions with this person revolve around me compromising my own needs in order to meet theirs?
Am I often 'wrong' or 'at fault' and responsible for 'fixing' their mood?

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