We can understand why someone behaves a certain way and have compassion for their experience, AND STILL not tolerate sh*tty behaviour. Sometimes, that means limiting contact. And that's ok! Your peace of mind is more important than their temporary discomfort. Being vulnerable with the wrong people will eventually lead you to shut down. So you do need to preserve your energy to a certain extent. The key is doing it lovingly and gently. We are all fragile.
Sometimes you can get stuck in a relationship: You're in a constant state of trigger (fight/ flight/ freeze) instead of feeling intimately connected You've become two old stories instead of two open hearts You're scared or angry most of the time instead of feeling free and authentic It's heavy and complicated instead of light and playful There is more effort placed on control and strategy than growth and gratitude You are there because of a commitment, because you feel you “should”, not because you want to be. What can you do? You basically have 3 options: 1. Stay . Continue the slow, painful process of losing yourself in order to keep the relationship. 2. Let it go . Sacrifice your relationship to save your soul. 3. Change . You both have to be willing and capable of growing together. The goal here is to see if you can get back to love without sacrificing your authentic selves in the process. To do this, you must remove the idea of promises, attachment...
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