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Persistent indecision is an invitation to change. But how do you figure out what you really want? Try these exercises: -Identify all the "shoulds" that perpetually stand in your way but haven't led to joy yet.  -Get really specific about what upsets you.  -Imagine new possibilities. Dream big, then dream bigger.  -Follow the things that intrigue you (if you're a thinker) or make you feel light and energetic (if you're a feeler).  'Uncomplicate' the decision by trusting your inner voice - the things that are proven to fulfill you do not require you to over-rationalize them.  "I  throw my heart into  the  world they  way  they shoot t - shirts out  of  t - shirt cannons in  concerts." -Liz Gilbert

Meditation does not cure all problems - rather it gives you the tools to handle all problems with grace. The biggest of problems is emotional reactivity. From a meditative state, it is easier to respond with intention rather than react mindlessly.  If you've never tried meditation but are searching for a way to live more peacefully and intentionally in the world, here are some tips on how to start: At first, holding an intention/ affirmation / mantra in your mind is easier than trying to eradicate all thought. For example: "Suffering is an opportunity for growth." or "I am loving and kind." Breathing and posture matter: 1. Breathe in for a count of 8. Hold for a count of 8. Exhale for a count of 8. Hold for a count of 8. 2. Find a position that helps you focus and relax. Sit, lie down, whatever works. Guided meditations help me get in the right head space. Try out a few until you find one that resonates. Yoga can put you in a meditative st...

We can understand why someone behaves a certain way and have compassion for their experience, AND STILL not tolerate sh*tty behaviour. Sometimes, that means limiting contact. And that's ok! Your peace of mind is more important than their temporary discomfort. Being vulnerable with the wrong people will eventually lead you to shut down. So you do need to preserve your energy to a certain extent. The key is doing it lovingly and gently. We are all fragile.

Your strengths will bring you external success, but self-acceptance will make you  indestructible. When you show yourself mercy and compassion, you heal the shame accumulated by not being perfect. The world tries to tell you that your job is to blame, pretend or punish yourself, or it tells you, with nicer words, to achieve, to fix, to improve. But you only need to remind yourself of your goodness even as you make mistake after mistake, even as you spot flaw after flaw, even as you doubt, worry and  fear. Not worthy "if" or "when", just worthy, always.