Here are some signs that indicate it's time to move on - because no amount of change will "fix" the relationship:
1. Instinctive avoidance. Without realizing it, one or both of you find yourselves trying to limit the time you spend together.
2. Taking pleasure in their failures, foolishness, and mistakes. Where there is no more compassion, there is little to save.
3. Focusing on the negative. If you have a difficult time finding appreciation and finding positives in their character or behaviour, your sentiment overrride will be near impossible to reverse.
4. Exaggerated response. Do you blow up and assume the worst at any little thing they do? Or vice versa? If you can't see things clearly, if fights constantly blow up out of proportion and you find yourself frequently on the verge of an explosion - this is unhealthy and unproductive. Why would you want to live your life this way, regardless of how much you or they care and how much you've invested into the relationship?
5. The time you spend together leaves you emotionally drained. You feel the need to escape and recharge after every interaction. If you're exhausted, bored, angry, or the conversation is halting 90% of the time - research says it won't be long before it ends.
How do you determine whether you're working with good material for a relationship, or someone who is incapable of building a healthy dynamic?
Signs of a toxic partner:
-superiority complex (contemptuous)
-master manipulator (gaslighter / liar)
-insecurities and fears (always over analyzing, expect rejection, avoid emotional risk)
-constant threats of breakup
-never want to fix problems
-hot headed and mean
-addicted to social media, substances, or other unhealthy forms of escape
-they often lose friends and relationships with family
-selfish / narcissistic
-indecisive (hot/ cold, unsure or wants / needs)
-overly influenced by friends and family
-avoid conflict at all costs (can't engage in constructive deep discussions about self and relationship)
-blame and shame others instead of taking responsibility
-don't show emotions (make you feel unsure of where you stand)
-humiliate you (bully)
-they don't have your back
-lack of trust (either side)
1. Instinctive avoidance. Without realizing it, one or both of you find yourselves trying to limit the time you spend together.
2. Taking pleasure in their failures, foolishness, and mistakes. Where there is no more compassion, there is little to save.
3. Focusing on the negative. If you have a difficult time finding appreciation and finding positives in their character or behaviour, your sentiment overrride will be near impossible to reverse.
4. Exaggerated response. Do you blow up and assume the worst at any little thing they do? Or vice versa? If you can't see things clearly, if fights constantly blow up out of proportion and you find yourself frequently on the verge of an explosion - this is unhealthy and unproductive. Why would you want to live your life this way, regardless of how much you or they care and how much you've invested into the relationship?
5. The time you spend together leaves you emotionally drained. You feel the need to escape and recharge after every interaction. If you're exhausted, bored, angry, or the conversation is halting 90% of the time - research says it won't be long before it ends.
How do you determine whether you're working with good material for a relationship, or someone who is incapable of building a healthy dynamic?
Signs of a toxic partner:
-superiority complex (contemptuous)
-master manipulator (gaslighter / liar)
-insecurities and fears (always over analyzing, expect rejection, avoid emotional risk)
-constant threats of breakup
-never want to fix problems
-hot headed and mean
-addicted to social media, substances, or other unhealthy forms of escape
-they often lose friends and relationships with family
-selfish / narcissistic
-indecisive (hot/ cold, unsure or wants / needs)
-overly influenced by friends and family
-avoid conflict at all costs (can't engage in constructive deep discussions about self and relationship)
-blame and shame others instead of taking responsibility
-don't show emotions (make you feel unsure of where you stand)
-humiliate you (bully)
-they don't have your back
-lack of trust (either side)
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