Do you find it difficult to get over a particular hurt? Is it crushing when someone disappoints you? Do you want to move on and forget but find it impossible to do so?
Do not be hard hearted.
What if you were the one who erred? How would you want others to react?
Are you considering the hundreds of good things someone did before their big mistake?
I like Brene Brown's analogy that in each relationship we have, all the positive interactions are like marbles being placed into your jar, and each negative interaction is a marble being taken away.
When dealing with issues in a relationship, I've found it's often best to confront the other party by disclosing the story you are telling yourself about a situation or a person and allow them to respond before you decide to react. And in overcoming a hurt, it's best to look at the state of your jar of marbles - if they are taking out more than they are putting in, then you are justified in your lack of forgiveness. But if they put in 10 marbles a day and take out 1 - then perhaps it's best to get over it.
Do not be hard hearted.What if you were the one who erred? How would you want others to react?
Are you considering the hundreds of good things someone did before their big mistake?
I like Brene Brown's analogy that in each relationship we have, all the positive interactions are like marbles being placed into your jar, and each negative interaction is a marble being taken away.
When dealing with issues in a relationship, I've found it's often best to confront the other party by disclosing the story you are telling yourself about a situation or a person and allow them to respond before you decide to react. And in overcoming a hurt, it's best to look at the state of your jar of marbles - if they are taking out more than they are putting in, then you are justified in your lack of forgiveness. But if they put in 10 marbles a day and take out 1 - then perhaps it's best to get over it.
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